The loss of a loved one, lack of money, family feuds, being single, simply feeling lonely (even when in the company of others), and the pressure of having to entertain friends and family, are just a few of those situations.
Let's Deal With Some of These Issues:
'I miss him/her so much.'
If it's your first Christmas without that close person, it is quite reasonable to feel sad, especially if Christmas was part of a special time for you both. Surround yourself with persons who are aware of what you are going through, are understanding and will allow you to talk about your loved one. Join in festivities like going to parties only if you want to, but be aware that other people may not feel the sadness you do. Do not feel obliged to join in with what is associated with Christmas, pretending to be happy for other people's sake. Cry if you need to as crying can help to release the sadness you are feeling.
'I don't have enough money'
Truth is, you probably don't need that wad of extra cash that floats away during the season. The more you spend during the season, the tougher it is to get back on your feet financially in the New Year. Make a list of the things you would get if you had the money, and set up a savings plan for next Christmas or for times during the year when cash flow may be better.
Also, look past material things, instead, focus on the joy of Christmas, and share home-made gifts or simply your time. Use this Christmas season to connect with family and friends and show goodwill and peace to all.
'I know they're family, but I really can't stand them'
Christmas brings all kinds of family together, those you like and those you don't care for one bit. Still, they are family, and you have to accept that. If a problem seems to be getting out of hand, write down what the problem(s) is, how you feel, and then come up with some solutions for which you'll take responsibility for implementing. Writing allows you to see clearly what is happening and will take some of the charge out of the situation.
Also when you write you may see that you may be the one making a mountain out of a mole hill and that what you viewed as a problem is really not a problem. If after writing, the problem is still with you, talk with (not confront) the people you have issues with and let them know that you want things to change for the better.
'I'm just lonely.'
Loneliness has nothing to do with having people around you, but rather everything to do with being emotionally close to people. Examine why you are lonely. Is it because you are shy, and lack confidence? Is it because you just don't get out much? Are you in an unfamiliar place when you usually are with people you love? Here's an idea.
Be around people, but be around those people who your company means something to. Find a charitable organisation that could use your talents and would appreciate your time and energy. When you help others, it may not beat the loneliness completely, but it will leave a warm Christmassy feeling knowing that you've helped someone who may be lonely too.
About the Author
Christine Morris is a Business and Life Coach/NLP Practitioner who specialises in coaching individuals and groups from all walks of life achieve their goals in less time than they thought possible, with results above their expectations.
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